How To Stop Worrying And Use Your Fear To Your Advantage
It’s always near you and when you least expect it, fear appears, when that happens you absolutely must be prepared to handle it and use it to get what you want instead of letting fear get the best of you.
Here are 6 tips to stop worrying and use fear to your advantage.
Admit Your BS
It is true that most of the time the first (or only) obstacle to the realization of our dreams is just us.
Every day our mind creates countless reasons or “excuses” for why we cannot accomplish what we want: “I have no time”, “It’s not the right time,” “I’ll do it tomorrow,” “I’m not smart enough” are just a few examples of the excuses we are creating to justify us not acting. To justify the fact that we are not doing what we should do, then the first and perhaps the most important step in achieving your most important goals must be to say “Now stop with this BS, no more excuses, it’s time to act, I am going to achieve this goal at any cost, I want it. ”
Understand that even your rational fears will probably not happen
When life presents me with a new challenge and fear shows its face I ask myself the following question: “What’s the worst thing that can happen?” and “What is the best way to handle it?” and then I do everything I can to be prepared.
Realize that most of the time our fears will not manifest and that most of the time we exaggerate our fears inside our minds, only to realize that what we feared has not been realized.
Keep in mind that failures are inevitable but they are the most useful experiences
“Failure is simply the opportunity to start again, this time more intelligently.”- Henry Ford
Failure is inevitable but it shapes us. Your past failures shaped who you are today, so you should use failure as a tool to improve your life. Just ask yourself the following question if you fail: “What can I learn from my mistake? ” and then make sure you will not make the same mistake again.
Be thankful for your experiences, even for the most challenging ones, since many times they teach you invaluable lessons.
That’s all you need to do!
Determine if your goal is a “MUST” and ask yourself what it will cost you if you do not overcome your fears.
If you have a goal in which you truly believe in, there is no fear or obstacle that can stop you.
Often the simple reason for failing is that your goal does not motivate you enough, it is not a “MUST”.
Ask yourself: Is the goal that I have set a must for me ? What are the reasons why I want to achieve this goal? What will happen to my life when I achieve it?
Create a list of at least 10 reasons why it is of utmost importance for you to reach your goal and then ask yourself: What happens if I do not reach this goal? What will happen to my finances if I don’t achieve this? What will happen to my relationships? Associate as much positive feelings with the idea of reaching your goal and try to associate as much pain as you can for not reaching it, the best way to self-indulge yourself is through the carrot and the stick.
Be sure your goal is a “MUST” and not a “SHOULD” and nothing will stop you.
Be frightened of not reaching your goals, getting older knowing you have not lived up to your potential, that every second past without focusing on your goals is lost forever and you will be shocked to what you will be able to manifest in your life with this kind of mindset.
Use the fear that someone else is living your dream
This is one of the most effective strategies to motivate yourself to achieve your goals and to destroy your fears that I know of.
Think of one of your goals, one of the most important goals you want to achieve this year.
Now think about someone who has already reached this goal, someone who does not even have all of the skills you posses, or someone who is younger than you who has already reached that goal and is already “Enjoying the fruits of his hard work”, how do you feel with the idea that someone else has already achieved what you want?
Very often what separates you from this person is not a matter of intellectual abilities or background, most of the time it is just the amount of actions you are willing to take to achieve your goals. We human beings are able to obtain extraordinary things, to manifest the impossible; just think about the things that surround you that in the past didn’t even exist, that someone else invented from an idea inside their brain.
How badly do you want to achieve your goal? How long are you willing to give up less important things in the short term to focus on your long-term goals? How much are you willing to go out of your “comfort zone”?
Think about this person and realize that you too can achieve this goal, it’s up to you to act NOW. Destroy your excuses and go get what you want.
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